Where Is This Village They Speak Of?
We have all heard it a million times but as westerners this village at times seems totally non-existent! I often wonder why we are so far from this notion that it takes many to raise one, and that it is actually ok. We move out of our parents homes, move to a new sub-division somewhere in the burbs and proceed to raise our own families often times by ourselves. If we are lucky we have the help of our immediate families, usually daycare of some sort but that is pretty much it.
In my life before blogging I was in Social Services a Social Service Worker to be exact. I had the most amazing opportunity to travel to Samoa. (in the South Pacific)for a work placement. The people I met did not understand the purpose of a social worker. The role did not exist there and quit frankly was not needed. The family that hosted me had 5 children staying with them, only 3 were biologically theirs. The other were orphaned so they took them in, and this was common practice. People dropped by, held community meals and everyone was family. Nobody went unnoticed, went homeless or fell through the cracks.
In the city life was busy but once we moved to the burbs I felt very alone. My parents are about a 30 minute drive away which isn't horrible but man is it quiet out here. Shaun can work long hours so at times it is just me and the kiddos. So it came time for us to "build" a little village just for ourselves. A daycare for Shane to go to, a mom's group for me to make some friends that I know I can count on to help out with the kiddos and get what being a mom is like. Lately I have been so pleased with random acts of kindness for my kids and I. My regular UPS man drove up just as I was unloading the kids the other day and he brought my recycling boxes up to my garage for me, and then there was the father who helped load my groceries for me and took my cart back. He said it looked like I had my hands full 😉
So here is my challenge to you my friends. We all know that parenting is crazy, insane, fun and at times pretty stinkin hard. I encourage you to be part of someone's village. Carry their groceries, donate food or second hand clothes, be a shoulder to cry on, or give a new mom a few moments to have a shower while you watch the baby. There are lots of ways we can help but we seem so stuck in the walls of our own houses.
Who is in your village that helps you to be an awesome parent?